2: How to Feel Unstuck

by Roxelle Cho May 15, 2020 1 Comment

2: How to Feel Unstuck

As you all know, we are here in this very interesting time together amidst this Coronavirus.

 

In this episode, I’m laying out all my fears, anxiety, all my insecurities, and the feeling of being stuck during these times of uncertainties. I walk you through my process of how I’m dealing with all of these negative emotions as we navigate through this unfamiliar territory. 

 

So, I hope you are all coping well and know that what you might be feeling - whether you’re feeling stuck, anxious, angry, sad - you’re allowed to feel to process this situation in your own way.

I hope this episode gives you the courage to keep moving forward, to put one foot in front of the other. 

 

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Intro

Aloha and welcome to the Dream Into it Podcast. I'm Roxelle Cho coming to you from my hometown, Kailua-Kona, Hawaii. After building a multiple seven figure swimwear  brand from a dream starting in my garage, I became curious into learning how my thoughts created the reality around me.

This is the Dream Into it Podcast where  we will look into how powerful inspired, motivated women like myself are able to rewrite the stories of their lives and step into their power. I am so excited to be able to join you on your journey of stepping into your potential and creating the life of your dreams. Mahalo for being here today, let's dream into it!

Episode

Aloha Fused Hawaii family. Welcome to the Dream Into It Podcast. Thank you for joining me on episode number two. As you all know, we are here in this very interesting time together amidst this Coronavirus, this pandemic, all of these uncertainties and fears rising in not only us but in the world today as a whole.  I just really wanted to get this podcast out there to everyone.  We're in this together.

All of my self-doubts have come up in me along with these fears, and all these insecurities, and I really was not sure of launching this podcast at this time feeling uncertain and feeling like I wasn't able to provide enough value to my community, and all of these stories in my head.

This is exactly why I'm recording this episode today because I wanted to catch these feelings as I'm in the midst of it, as I'm there with you feeling uncertain, feeling unsure of the outcome, feeling scared, feeling fear. I wanted to record this episode so you know that I'm there with you as well every step of the way as we continue to trudge through these times to continuously move forward, but one step in front of the other. I wanted to be there with you as well. The good times and the bad. And I feel like it's those moments of us coming together during these times that help our community to build, not only our community, but the world around us to build into a bigger, brighter future for ourselves, for our families, for our kids. For just the overall expansion of the world around us. 

I'm here in Hawaii -  in Kailua Kona, Hawaii  - and fully blessed for the sunshine that I have every day. Blessed for the grass that I have outside in the yard.

I know that some members of my team are stuck in different areas of the world where they don't have those luxuries and, yes, I call those things luxuries. I call fresh air, the grass beneath my feet, the wind blowing, the birds chirping outside my window. Those are the real luxuries of life.

As I go through this process, I'm realizing that those luxuries were there all along. They were in my backyard. They were there for free. There was nothing I had to do to earn those luxuries in life. Yet there are people in other parts of the world and other countries who would kill for those luxuries. Here I am. Here I am, able to touch grass every day, able to walk outside and breathe fresh air, and to have my children healthy and to be surrounded by my family. All of these things are luxuries and I want to share this message with you because I know to some degree, we're all one, and we can relate to that - that we all have access to these luxuries in life.

And last night I had a little bit of, I suppose, a meltdown in my sort of way. My meltdowns now are not as bad as they used to be in the past . I've grown a little, just a little, through this process of life and hardships and ups and downs, and learned how to slowly get myself out of these low points in life, in these slumps.

You know, here we are and what I want to talk about today is the words that I used last night, and it was just on my mind this morning as well. The feeling of being stuck. I'm feeling stuck. I am stuck. Those are the words that we use. That's what I want to talk about today and I feel it can apply to everyone because at some point in our lives, unless we are some superhuman being of some sort, have we never felt stuck.

So, you know, let's talk about that right now. I'm only on about a weekend (or less than a weekend) to this quarantine then and I was feeling stuck last night. I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm always trying to be as transparent as possible with my audience and the reason for that feeling - and it's totally, completely valid. You know, this is a really new scenario for us all. The reason I was feeling stuck is I'm quarantined. We're in lockdown. I have my four children around me in my workspace.

I usually work from home and I can navigate my routine pretty easily. The kids go to school and I've become accustomed to this routine in my life. Last night, I was like, “How do we, you know, arrange this new schedule, this change in my routine? How do we arrange for my eight-month-old, my two-year-old, my five-year-old, my eight-year-old, to be entertained?” All the meantime, business structures are, you know, at a low point, I would say - falling apart. But the reality is it's just shifting, changing and all of these changes taking place. We have my sister, my mom is staying with me during this time as well, my nephew - we have a full house!

So we have all of these dynamics and what I realize is that there are so many ways to look at this feeling of feeling stuck. So last night it took me about 20 minutes, 30 minutes to let that feeling go and how do I do that? This is my process of how I learned to do that, and it's not to say that we're never stuck. It's not to say that the feeling of being stuck doesn't exist. It is real. It does exist. It did exist. But what I learned through my process, which I'm going to share with you, is that it doesn't have to exist as long as it used to. We have the power within us to change how long we want to feel stuck, and that's what came to mind this morning.

I didn't know that I had this process until I went through it and that's exactly what it takes. That's my process of going through it. So last night I realized my process was letting go of feeling stuck. It's not acting like it's not there. No, it's very much there. I'm here in this house. We are quarantined. I do have a lot of children in my space. I do have a multimillion-dollar business to operate. I do have 30 to 40 people on my team along with other teams that I work with to sustain through this time. Not only financially, but energetically, emotionally, all of these things.

These people have become my family. Not only that, but we have our audience and our community to   sustain and their energy, their happiness through all of this. It's not a money game when it comes to the economy and businesses. It's human to human. It's a heart game. It's how we really feel. It's how people actually operate.

That's what it's about. Last night as I was going through my process, I allowed myself. 

Step number one, you are allowed to feel stuck at times, and it's okay. That will be step number one, and again, I'm just winging this right now. I'm on lockdown in my closet recording this episode with as good as audio quality as we can possibly come up within this situation.

I'm going to explain to you why I chose to record right now, today. Step number one, as we feel stuck and we are allowed to feel stuck, I express my feelings to my husband. I'm feeling these ways. I'm feeling overwhelmed at times. I have all of these things on my to-do list. They seem to be piling up in front of me.

It seems like I don't even know where to start. All of these things, and I can go down the rabbit hole of that. How many things were impossible at that moment in time of me feeling stuff? That time lasted 20 to 30 minutes max. I gave myself 30 minutes to feel stuck. I allowed myself that time to feel through all parts of my body, through all parts of that emotion and I allowed myself to know that it was okay to go through those things.

It was only by going through those things and feeling the feelings that I was able to actually pull out of that thing that I was actually afraid of. That was interesting to me. That's something I want to share. Until we go there, until we go to the depths and the lows and the feelings to our core, are we actually going to know what lies beneath all of that?

So one of the things on my stuck list was how do I launch this podcast?  This was on my to-do list. I have a hundred other things that are coming to mind. But one of the things in my stuck list was, I can't get to that right now. We can't possibly launch that podcast because I have so many other things to do.

I don't have the time. I've got all of these kids. I've got all these things that are stopping me from launching that podcast. I thought that was an interesting thought that I filed away. So as I vented through this half an hour timeframe, I let it all out. All the things that were not possible, and I couldn't do, and I didn't have - all of these stuff. At the end of that half an hour, I let it go. 

 

Step number two, let it go. Let it go. Because those are things that were not in my control at that moment. If those were the things that were keeping me stuck, I'm going to let it go because there was nothing that I could possibly do at that moment to change the outcomes of all those things that I couldn't hold.

So step number one, you're allowed to feel whatever it is you're feeling. For me, stuck. For all of us at this moment maybe it is also that -  stuck. I'm going to stick with that theme. Step number two, let it go. It's not yours to carry. It really is not yours to carry and all of those things that I put out there and I got to vent, I let it go. I didn't have to carry it anymore because it was out. I let it go. There was no need for me to carry it. If there is something we can do about a certain situation, then go ahead. Feel free to do it, to as much as your ability. If there is something that we cannot control and we can't do anything about, we let it go.

There is no point in us using any extra energy. At this point, our energy really is all we have in this quarantine, in this time, in this part of our lives that's radical. Let's conserve our energies for our families. Let's conserve our energies for our dreams. Let's conserve our energies for our health and well-being.

How bout that? How about that as another option? 

So as I went through my evening and I let it go,  I was allowed to breathe again.  And all that extra space that opened up inside of me, I was allowed to breathe air into that. I was allowed to breathe good, wholesome energy, and the next day I could reset.

I could reset my intentions. I could reset my mindset. I could reset now that all of my thoughts were out there in the open. I can analyze those thoughts. I could analyze those fears. I could analyze the feeling of stuck and see if it was actually real. Was it something that was actually real or was it something that I made up to cover up a core fear of mine?

What I learned this morning, which is why I'm here recording this podcast, is we have a choice at every moment. We have a choice to take the next step forward. We have a choice to put the next one foot in front of the other and take one -  only one step forward. We don't have to run the marathon today. We don't have to run a mile by tomorrow. 

All I ask of you is step number three, take one step forward. Do the one thing that you can do that is in your control, that is in your power to put the next foot in front of the other. Because at this time that we are in, it requires all of us to take one step forward.

If we do that as a community, if we do that as an entire world, our entire world will uplift. And that's the beauty of it all. Because at the end of the day, we do not have the ability to be a superhero for the entire world. But we can be a superhero for ourselves. We can be superheroes for our children.

We can be the superhero for our communities by just taking the one step forward. That's why I'm here today, sitting here in my closet, just recording this on a makeshift recording studio that I had faith would get the message through to you that needed to come through. Because it wasn't up to me to be in control of how valuable my content could be to the world. It wasn't in my hands to show how smart I was or how knowledgeable I am on the topic of feeling stuck and the psychology behind it and all of this stuff, the rat race and my brain of  who I thought I needed to be. 

All I knew is that if I put one foot in front of the other, I put a microphone on my computer, and I recorded this for whoever needed to hear this message,  I had faith that it would be enough. So I hope, I really, truly hope, that this message brought light to wherever you are in this world right now. Perhaps feeling stuck wherever you are. I hope that you can find peace knowing that you can put one foot in front of the other.

We're in this together. You're allowed to feel the feelings you're feeling. You're allowed to feel it, but put a time limit on that. Let all the fears go. Let it go. Step number three, put one foot in front of the other. Step into your power, step into your light, and do exactly what you are here to do and the world will be a better place for it.

I thank you all for joining me here in this episode. I hope that brings you value in some way. I hope that you too can find something that lifts you during this time. I would love to hear from you,  what your next step is today,  what's your next step will be tomorrow, the next week? I would love to hear all of your comments, engage with us in our community at our private Facebook group Empowered by fused Hawaii.

I have a whole community there of women who are empowering one another to step into their power and step into their light. I think that's enough. That's enough for today. So I'm sending aloha from Kailua Kona, Hawaii, from my home to yours during this time of distress, at this time (I don't know even what to call it), this time of uncertainty, in the time we're living in, but know that within all of that uncertainty, we can find these little, little pockets of life and it's in that, that many, many great things will be built. And I do believe that.

Thank you to our community. Thank you for joining me here today. I'm so excited to get this podcast out there in this raw form, in this time that we're in today. I feel very, very privileged to be able to have this platform to talk to you all as we all go through this pandemic together. 

Aloha.

Outro

Mahalo for tuning in! I hope you enjoyed that episode. Keep on dreaming Into It Dreamers. The possibilities are infinite. If you love the show, share it with a friend and subscribe. I'll catch you in the next episode. Feel free to dive into our show notes at www.fusehawaii.com and you can follow me on Instagram as well @roxellecho.

I'd love to hear from you. Comment on my recent post. What did you learn? Tell me your takeaways. 

Aloha.



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Ashley
Ashley

May 25, 2020

You are a true inspiration and love hearing these. It is my time to just chill

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